When is the Right Age to Get Married
The
question that comes to mind of young adult is when is the right age to
get married and at what time marriage beckon to an individual that it’s
time to get into me. The average age to get married varied from country
to country and even culture to culture, some get married at very tender
age while in some culture your elder sister must marry as female before
you can get married.
Knowing
the right age to get married shouldn’t be the best question to ask
yourself but how prepare are you for marriage since marriage can be done
at any age. If you’re feeling too young to get married or you’re
looking at yourself to have been somebody’s father but you’re still not
marry has nothing to do with the right time to get married. As I said
above, your readiness should be your determining factor for your
marriage age and not your real age because looking at your age without
your readiness for up and down of marriage may hurt your physical and
emotional life which may lead to regret thereafter.
I
want you to analyze these three questions which will help you to
determine when is the right age to get married. If you cannot probably
answer them well, then it means you’re still not ready to go the altar.
1. You and your partner are you guys emotionally matured?
Emotional
maturity has a lot to play when it comes to marriage issues. You’ve
been living all alone and try to control the way your emotionally
response to issues around you and you’re not getting into someone’s
nerve in your emotional reaction. But in marriage, your emotional
reaction can be altered by someone else which is your partner. Do you
have the ability to cope with that without raising issues with him or
her. Both of you have to be emotionally mature before you can go into
marriage at your age.
2. Are you financially capable?
Getting
into marriage is not a child play, but I will tell you it’s an adult
play and what that means is that it’s a serious matter that need your
utmost attention. So being financially capable will put you in an easier
position to get married when your right age come, an age that no one
will determine for you but your financial capabilities can be your
determinant. Your father is not going to give you pocket money anymore
so also your mother will not do so, you must have a reasonable level of
income on your own before deciding on your marriageable age. Marriage
comes with lots of financial responsibilities you must ready to bear.
When you’re financially capable, then going into marriage will even
afford you to prepare to save for your family future purposes.
3. Can you compromise and accept your partner’s shortcomings
Going into marriage mean you will have to compromise in your marital relationship without which marriages fail.
Your ability to compromise in your marriage is an added advantage to
the marriageable age. Both of you are coming from different background
with probably different culture even similar culture to do have some
differences. When your partner will need something in place of your own
want, can you give up your want for her need?
You
surely know that you’re not perfect, so also your partner is not
expected to be perfect either, there are shortcomings that will be
coming from your partner that ordinarily you can’t take it from anybody
when you’ve not married. Can you accept such shortcomings like your
partner snoring at night, or someone that easily forget himself or
herself, or perhaps someone who don’t love to be disturbed at all when
he/she is sleeping, it might be someone who love to wake up in the
middle of the night looking for what to eat. These are shortcomings that
could arise in your marriage; can you be able to cope with any of
these?
If you can answer the three
questions with affirmative answer, then you’re at the right age for your
marriage. Then your question of when is the right age for marriage has
been answered by you yourself.
Do you
think there is something you want us to talk in term of marriage age
that we don’t talk about here, please feel free to let us know or
perhaps you have some contributions to make in addition to what we’ve
just shared above, please share it with us, we value all contributions
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