10 signs he’s not the one

How to tell if he’s not right for you

If you’re looking for Prince Charming, but you’re not sure if the guy you’re dating is the one who’s going to sweep you off your feet and give you the happily ever after you desire, then you need to check out these 10 signs to prove he’s not the one.

He bought you a goldfish

What did your guy buy you for your last birthday? If he got you a goldfish, even though you find all animals repulsive, then it’s a sign he’s not the one. Presents are a great way to find out if the guy you are dating knows and understands you. If he buys you something you hate then it shows he either doesn’t get you, or doesn’t care enough to bother finding you something you want.

You never fight

Now, not fighting with your boyfriend may sound like a good thing. You may even be extremely proud of the fact. Yet don’t feel too smug because not arguing with one another is a sign that he’s not the one. Couples who fight clearly feel stable enough to do so. Therefore if neither of you squabble it shows that you are not in a solid relationship.

You fight over Mr. Bagpuss

A clear sign that he’s not the one for you is if you both argue about the way you treat and discipline your pets. Although it seems weird to base your relationship on the way you both treat your pets, trust us, raising pets is a lot like raising kids and it’s a good way of foreseeing if you are compatible as a long-term couple.

He’s saving for a house in the suburbs

If you won a big wad of money what would you spend it on? Got your answer yet? Great, now ask your boyfriend what he would spend his money on. If he tells you that he’d stash the cash in his bank account because he’s saving for that house in the suburbs, whilst you said you’d spend the money on a new pair of Jimmy Choos, then it might be a sign he’s not the one for you. Timing is a major part of any successful relationship and if you’re both at different stages and want different things from life, it won’t work.

Intellectual conversation scores a zero

Whilst charm, good looks and abs you could build a house on are all great, at some point age and an office job will ravish your man of his good looks and one day you may turn round to look at your formerly chiseled boyfriend to find a balding, pot-bellied, middle aged guy. If this does happen, would you still love him? It’s easy to confuse attraction and love. If you wouldn’t still be prepared to grow old with your guy if he suddenly turned into a Shrek look-alike, then it’s a sign he’s not the one.

Had s3x on the first date 

Who cares if you had s3x on the first date? It’s the twenty first century and you can both do what you want. Yet, a new study contradicts this. Researchers suggest that those couples who have sex too early end up confusing the good-decision part of their brain and end up sticking with a relationship that is not actually suitable on a long-term basis.

Perfect weekend

Want to know if the guy you’re dating is right for you? It’s easy; just ask him what he’d get up to on his perfect weekend. If he answers that he’d spend Saturday watching football and Sunday shopping at a designer outlet whilst your idea of the perfect weekend is a country walk and a tea room, you might be with the wrong man. Although you don’t have to enjoy all of the same things, you do both need to spend time with one another and you both need to enjoy that time you share if your relationship is going to work.

He’s jealous

Okay, so his last girlfriend cheated on him seven times, but is that reason enough for him to go through your phone or kick up a fuss because you have a male friend? The answer is always no. He needs to understand that this is a new relationship and it won’t work if he brings along his old baggage. If one of you is overly jealous or “protective” then it’s a sign he’s not the one for you.

He lies

It’s so cheesy, yet it’s so true: trust is everything in a relationship. If you can’t trust him or he can’t trust you, your relationship is destined for failure. So, if you catch your man lying does that mean it’s all over? Well, yes and no. It depends on the magnitude of the lie and how much he hurt you by telling it. If you can forgive him, make sure he knows that you won’t be so tolerant next time and talk about why he didn’t tell you the truth.

Look at your dad

A clear but stomach-turning sign he’s not the one for you is if he’s nothing like your dad. We know that your dad is never going to feature highly on your ‘To-Date List’ (at least we hope not girls!) yet apparently, when we meet people, we are naturally drawn to those that look and smell like our parents. So, if the findings are accurate and your man is not like your dad then chances are it won’t last.