Sometimes, a dreamy romance can sweep us
off our feet to the point where we fail to pinpoint when we’re doing
things that we’re not sure about. Give us a lovey-dovey candy floss
brain and we’ll say yes to anything! “Move away from your family to be
closer to me?” Sure! “Give up your art career and focus on engineering
instead?” Will do! In scenarios like these, you need to put your foot
down before you end up with nothing left other than a relationship that
you may not even be happy with in the future. Here are 10 things you
should never let your partner pressure you into.
Never feel pressured into making a se3x tape
No matter how much of a good idea it may seem at the time, if you
make a sex tape there’s always the likelihood of it getting into the
wrong hands. Unless you’re a certain Ms. Kardashian, there’s more chance
it’ll bring you embarrassment than fame and fortune and what happens if
you break up with your partner
and the tape still exists? We know how exes can act irrationally when
they’re scorned, bitter and heartbroken and if there’s a se3x tape in the
mix, there’s no guessing the amount of upset it could cause. Never let
your partner pressure you into starring in a rude tape and you’ll never
have to face the panic if it all goes wrong.
Never feel pressured into having or not having children
Mmm, children – not something you can really compromise on, is it?
“You vacuum tonight and we’ll try for babies tomorrow.” “No babies for
us, but I’ll treat you to the cinema instead.” In scenarios where views
on important life decisions are completely opposite, it may be time to
end the relationship and find someone who has similar plans for the
future as you. Some couples simply don’t want children and others want
nothing more than a bundle of joy but when you get a person from each
camp, it’s not something that can really be changed.
Never feel pressured into altering your weight
With the media being peppered with celebs that morph from curvy to
thin on a daily basis, sometimes we feel like the ones who need a
reality check. The truth is though, it’s important not to feel like
these celebs are people you should base your own life on and, if your
partner is urging you to transform into their favourite pin-up, remind
them that you are a human – not an airbrushed magazine photograph. Maybe
your other half prefers you with more meat on your bones? As long as
you’re happy and healthy, never let your partner dictate what you should
look like. Any lover worth being with will love you for who you are.
Never feel pressured into moving away
You and your other half on your own in the real world? Ooh, romantic! Don’t be fooled by the dreamy facade of
moving in together
though; as soon as those rose-tainted glasses come off and you’re
settling into a new job, finding new friends and going to sleep in a
place far from home, it may not be all it’s cracked up to be. If you and
your partner are both up for the big move, then congratulations! If
not, don’t cave into any pressure because you’ll end up resenting your
other half if it all goes wrong...
Never feel pressured into changing your appearance
While we can all benefit from a little advice from our other half
from time to time, if you’re more of a demure and sweet Jennifer
Anniston and he’s trying to revamp you into a bold and feisty Lady Gaga,
it’s time to put your foot down. While telling you that a bold
accessory will make your outfit pop or that a different hairstyle
flatters your face better is usually valuable advice, if your other half
is trying to change your whole image then there’s a good chance they
should be with someone who fits their prototype and you should continue
to shine like the star you are!
Never feel pressured into saying “I love you”
Don’t feel that you should say those three little words just because it’s what your other half wants to hear. Once the ‘L bomb’
has been dropped, there’s no going back on your word. What if you still
don’t love your other half 12 months down the line? You can’t keep
telling someone you love them if it’s not how you truly feel. No matter
how much your partner may say they want to hear it, never cave in and
make this confession just because you feel pressured – only say it if
you really mean it!
Never feel pressured into buying a house together
You’re perfectly content living with your housemates/parents/other
family members (delete as applicable) but your partner wants a cute
cottage with a picket fence? Don’t we all! While the temptation of
getting your own place together may be intense, only go ahead with the
idea if you’re 100 per cent sure that this is what you want. Living with
the one you love is a great experience, but if you’re heart’s not in it
and you suddenly change your mind, a mortgage normally means you’re
left with a pretty hefty sum to pay off for something you were pressured
into...
Never feel pressured into marriage
Marriage isn’t something you can do on a whim. Are you ready to share
decisions on everything from meals to furniture? Are you ready to
commit to spending the rest of your life with this person? If the
answer’s yes, then go for it. If it’s something that you’re doing to
stop your partner from nagging, don’t go through with it because it
won’t end well and, let’s face it, it’s a pretty expensive thing to be
pressured into if your heart’s not in it.
Never feel pressured into lending large sums of money
While we’re not suggesting that you keep all your money to yourself
and never treat your other half, lending large sums of money to your
partner is dodgy territory. Sure, they’ve promised to pay you back, but
what’s to say they’re not going to lose their job and have no money for a
long time? Or that you’ll break up and never see the money again? While
all circumstances are different, never lend a large sum of money to
your partner if you’re not 100 per cent sure it’s what you want to do.
Never feel pressured into staying with your partner
If it ever comes to a stage in your relationship where one member of a
couple isn’t happy while the other is perfectly content, it’s important
not to stay with that person just because it works for them. Sounds
pretty straightforward, right? With an estimated six out of 10 adults in
a relationship they aren’t happy with, though, it’s no surprise that
many of us are feeling pressured into staying in an unhappy
relationship. Never let your other half blackmail you into staying with
them. Breaking up is hard – no one ever said it was easy. But sometimes one door has to close for another (much happier) one to open.
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