Bad habits to stop for the sake of your relationship
It’s normal to get to that stage in your
relationship where you feel completely at ease with each other. When you
get so comfortable that you neglect your friends, your manners and your
hygiene though, things can start going downhill. Here are five of the
most common everyday habits that you must avoid for the sake of your
relationship.
Relationship habit 1: Letting yourself go
The more time we spend with our partner, the more comfortable we feel
around each other. When we first met them, we strutted around looking
gorgeous and acting like butter wouldn’t melt until suddenly, we became
comfortable with each other and boom – we look like we’ve just stepped
off the set of
The Walking Dead and our manners are nowhere to
be seen. Sound familiar? While your manners and appearance can
inevitably become a little less controlled when you’re spending a large
amount of time with that one special person, it’s important to make a
conscious effort to still impress your partner every now and again. You
don’t have to walk around looking like a perfectly preened superstar and
speaking like a queen, but making an effort to scrub up and watching
your manners can go a long way in keeping the spice in your
relationship.
Relationship habit 2: Being overly lovey-dovey
It’s not a good sign when you’re constantly texting your other half
saying “I love you” (just in case they forgot about when you said it ten
minutes ago), or you won’t leave each other’s side because “you’re in
love” (oh please, this is getting cringe-worthy now), and when you’re
kissing passionately around the family dinner table.... eww, stop this!
This kind of behaviour makes your friends and family squirm and can also
be detrimental to your relationship. Yes schmudgy wudgy cuddle bum, I’m
talking to you. All of that lovey-dovey-ness may feel great to start
with, but too much of it can lead to these special gestures becoming
less special and then we face the dilemma of expressing our love when
our partner is used to lots of passion and confessions of love in their
everyday life.
Relationship habit 3: Forgetting your friends
Have you ever had a friend who has suddenly partnered up with the
guy/girl they’ve been raving about for the past few weeks and then you
don’t see them again for months? Maybe that “friend” is actually you?
We’ve all probably been guilty of this at some point in our lives. Are
you still with this partner now? Probably not (if you are, we’ve got to
hand it to you for making it work.) No matter how much we love spending
time with our other half, it’s important to keep in regular contact with
our friends for the sake of our own sanity. Our pals remind us that
there are other things going on in the world aside from romance, and
they keep our feet firmly on the ground when we start getting swept off
into romantic dream land. Spending all of your time with your other half
usually ends up with you getting bored of each other pretty soon into
the relationship and this is a recipe for disaster.
Relationship habit 4: Over-spending
Whether you’re a shopaholic who can’t cure your addiction to save for
a new rug for the living room floor or you’re an avid gambler up to
your eyes in debt and unable to pay your bills, both of these scenarios
may eventually wear your relationship down. Maybe it’s your partner who
has the spending problem? If your other half can afford to go out and
buy a new car, despite having a perfectly functioning Ferrari on the
drive, but then has to borrow money off you to buy food for the rest of
the month it probably makes you feel pretty grim. Unless you nip it in
the bud from the start, things will only get worse. Someone who isn’t
grown up enough to be sensible with their own finances doesn’t rate
highly on the list of favourable traits in a partner, as it can cause
all sorts of stress and put a huge amount of pressure on the
relationship in the future.
Relationship habit 5: Bad-mouthing your partner
The negative attitude that “men are all the same” or “women just
can’t do anything right” does a pretty good job of embedding itself into
our minds and ultimately ruining our relationships. Indeed, both men
and women are often guilty of tarnishing their partner with the same
gender stereotyped brush, particularly during heated heart-to-hearts
with their friends. Relationship expert Joy Davidson, PHP, explains that
“these kinds of conversations embed a negative attitude in your head”,
which may subconsciously permeate your attitude towards your partner in
day-to-day life. In certain situations we have to accept that men are
from Mars and women are from Venus so we can stop moaning about them and
live together in harmony.
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