I have a boyfriend but i dont like him because i dont have emotion (se3x3)feeling for Him. My best wish is to have s3ex with my dad.

 y name is janet i base @ abuja am 25year! My problem is i get jealous anytime i see my dad and mum going to bed at night because i love my dad and always want to ...Continue Reading Here

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"Everyone Thought We were a Perfect Couple"

I would just sit there and thinking about him and get a amazing feeling inside me. He made me feel like I was a Princess. I used to feel like I was in my own world when he kissed me softly on the lips, it was like a spark been lite up inside me every moment I spend with him. People used to say you're wasting your time with him but I didn't care, he made me feel so happy I felt nothing could go wrong. It was an amazing, beautiful feeling.

What Happened Next?

He emailed me on Facebook asking was I still with my Ex boyfriend and I said no, he said oh that's good, I laughed and asked how was that good?, He replied because I wanted to ask you something! I was excited but scared. He said, Would you like to go out with me! I was so delighted. So we met up and got closer, and then on May 18th 2010 he asked me to he his girlfriend...I never felt so happy! We did everything together, We introduced each other to our parents and friends, Everyone thought we were a perfect couple and so did we, He brought me to the cinema, Shopping, And he got me everything I wanted...The thing was that he was from England so he went there a lot to family, So I was getting a bit worried because he was over there a month and I didn't hear from him, I never even questioned him cheated on me until the day one of his friends said he was meeting another girl over there. My heart shattered, I cried my eyes out. That night he rang me and I asked him about it and he said it was just rumours and to ignore them. Seeing as I trusted him with my life I forgot about it. When he returned he gave me a Silver Necklace with a cross on it, it was beautiful. Many nights we would sit up on his bed talking about the future, I told him how I always dreamed of a Wedding on the Beach with Millions of fireworks, He thought I was crazy but he promised me no matter what happened he would make it happen for me. We spent every minute we could with each other. Soon I started hanging around with his friends and realized what he and his friends were really like, I was heartbroken at the fact that he knew what stuff they were up to but he still did it anyway. Many times he promised he would stop but I always found out he was lying, it tore me apart. I was there for him no matter what, even tho he was always hurting me. I couldn't help but think back to the days when it was just me and him. I told him how amazing he was and how much he meant to me but he never listened, he just did everything that was upsetting me anyway! One day I lost it, I was fed up of crying and worrying about him but I was willing to work it out but in the end we just fell apart!

Lessons Learned

• Don't fall for any boy until you find out what he's really like, then decide if you really like him, Don't be in any rush to fall in love, Because in the end ... You just get hurt!

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We Got Back Together & Kept Breaking Up Again"

When the silence between us wasn't awkward

What Did It Feel Like?

The most amazing feeling ever. You always have them on your mind, even their name makes you smile. You just get a warm fuzzy feeling in your entire body. From head to toe.. You count down the days to when you're going to next see them. You get butterflies when you see them.

What Happened Next?

We liked each other from when we first met.. but we never got together until 3 years later, and we went to a concert together that's when he finally said he loved me.. We were together for about 7 months, I always used to go to his house for tea, his parents were lovely, they'd treated me like the daughter they never had, I always went to his band's gigs, he was the drummer in a band, he always used to sing songs to me on his guitar too.. He always used to talk about getting married, we were only 15 at the time, we never had sex. He always used to tell me he loved me more, more than anything, and we were going to last forever.. He broke up with me when we were 3 months into our relationship, but it wasn't a horrible breakup.. Bless him, he cried his eyes out, saying he didn't want to lose me, and he loved me very much. But the reason why he broke up with me is because he thought it wasn't fair on me that I hardly ever saw him because he was busy with his band stuff.. He walked me home and said sorry, two hours later he rang me up saying he needed me, and he was very sorry and he called himself a dick. But about 2 months later we had an argument, and we broke up again.. Then we got back together then we just kept breaking up again, then getting back together then breaking up.
But now he has a new girlfriend, I'm not jealous I'm just hurt.
And I still love him.

Lessons Learned

• It's nice to think your ex misses you and still loves you, but getting back together with them doesn't always last. But everyone deserves a second chance.
• Don't be afraid to fall in love, it's the most amazing feeling in the world

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"I Thought I Would Be Happy Forever"

It felt wonderful, I felt like a princess, I felt cared for. I felt like I was protected, I thought I would be happy forever. My life was blessed qt that few week period. This was one of the best times of my life

What Happened Next? 

 

Oscar started acting mean after I showed him I liked him back. He revealed all he had told me of the past was a lie, he had like 9 girls, kissed 3 of them, and hugged all. I was devastated. I still sorta like him but he keeps on trying to make me jealous. I sometimes cry because of the stuff he does. I think he still likes me, but I find pictures on Facebook or evidence of him leaning on another girl, or holding her hand. He became partners with his old girlfriend in class just to tick me off. I really miss the old him.

Lessons Learned

• Dont stay in the relationship if he lies and tries to make you jealous
• if he is mean to your friends, ditch him.
• never fall too quickly
• crying never helps
• if he's violent, leave
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Beautiful Advice From a Divorced Man After 16 Years of Marriage

A note from James Russell Lingerfelt: Mr. Gerald Rogers’ article stirred a wide variety of feelings among people across the globe. Helped and encouraged thousands, infuriated few. We read letters from women in Malaysia comforting women in England. Men in USA and Singapore spoke healing words to men in Europe and India. A man in Germany responded with some of the deepest insights I’ve read in years. The unity and compassion among people which this article brought forth was a beautiful experience to witness. I’ll never forget it.
As of August 26, 2013 (eleven days after posted) the article had received over 2 million views. One common idea reverberated among many of the healthy responses: If we make the conscious decision to daily place our spouse’s desires and needs above our own, and that’s reciprocated, the marriage will succeed. Is utter and complete selflessness the goal?
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My advice after a divorce following 16 years of marriage, by Gerald Rogers.
Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had
1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.
2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.
3. Fall in love over and over again.  You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.
5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.
6. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.
7. Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.
8. Allow your woman to just be. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.
9. Be silly… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.
10. Fill her soul everyday… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.
11. Be present. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12. Be willing to take her sexually, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.
13. Don’t be an idiot…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.
14. Give her space… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)
15. Be vulnerable… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.
16. Be fully transparent. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.
17. Never stop growing together… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.
18. Don’t worry about money. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.
19. Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20. Always choose love. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.
In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come. Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.
These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.
If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.
MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE: Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

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